9 Goals For 2019

9 Goals For 2019

This is the year I’m going to change my life, no really. That statement is so cliche it hurts, but I finally feel like, at the age of 31 and a half, I know what I want from life and I understand the areas that need improving. With this in mind I have set myself 9 goals for 2019 which I hope will really improve my mental health and the quality of our lives.

9 Goals For 2019

  1. This year I really want, no, NEED, to eat healthier. I don’t mean I want to jump on a fad diet, I just need to change up my eating habits. Mainly my nightly addiction to share(Ha!) bag sized packets of crisps and chocolates.
  2. Declutter,declutter,declutter! One of the main triggers for me feeling stressed is feeling like the house is tip (I have a messed up childhood to thank for that one) I just feel like we have accumulated a lot of stuff and I’m finding it all quite suffocating. I started decluttering last year and it has made such a big difference, hopefully this year we will finally be rid of all the unnecessary crap.
  3. Buy less, spend more is my new mantra for 2019. Not your average one but let me explain – I waste a lot of money buying useless crap, hence the decuttering. Often this means we don’t have any money left to do the things we enjoy doing like days out and eating at restaurants. This year I want to stop spending money on stuff and spend more on making memories as a family.
  4. This year I plan to read more, I forgot just how much I LOVE reading, having 3 kids will do that to you. I am already off to a good start with this one as I have managed to read 1 book already and we are only a few days in to the new year. The aim is to keep this up and read at least 20 books in the coming year.
  5. Readdress the old work/life balance because quite frankly it doesn’t exist currently. I plan to give myself set working hours for blog/YouTube work,and only work within these hours. At the minute I find myself spending me evenings and spare time attempting to work and not really getting much done because my mind is on all the other things I should be doing. Hopefully with set working hours I can free myself up to spend more quality time with family and actually get some work done!
  6. We have stayed in quite a bit over Christmas, hello winter bugs, and you know what, staying in wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be and we got so many odd jobs done that had been put off for ages. I normally hate staying in but it felt so good to tick off some of the to do list and just have a few lazy days. I’m always going to prefer getting out over staying in but perhaps this year I can learn to enjoy the homey days too.
  7. This time last year I will happily admit I was a bit of a psycho, I turned into a full on shouty mum and generally felt a bit out of control. I feel so much calmer going into 2019 and I really want to continue to work on this and become a more positive person.
  8. This year we are going to have regular date night, well days, most likely days, but still, I want to be able to leave the little 2 with their grandparents more so as we can spend time as a couple and with my eldest. Starting with a trip to the cinema this weekend, god I don’t even remember the last time I went to the cinema! It’s hard as a parent I think to be selfish but it is sooo important for our mental health and our relationship.
  9. Go to bed early, she says as she’s sat up past bedtime writing this…This is pretty self explanatory really and I am sure most of us are guilty of staying up late just to cram in some sacred child free time. Our nights have been getting later and Poppy has been sleeping less so we are pretty zombiefied and in desperate need of a few early nights!

I have a million more goals and plans for the upcoming year but these ones are good to start with, too many written down can be overwhelming I think. I would love to hear your goals for 2019, let me know in the comments.

5 Comments

  1. Luna
    January 12, 2019 / 1:12 pm

    Really happy to see you are embracing the positivity & I always commend people for any attempt to change their lives. Its amazing how simple little changes can all add up and equal a big change, even if its just a change in mindset.

    I too am trying to save money this year as we need to do a lot of work to our home (its practically falling down around us). Also timehop and apps like that keep reminding me how much we used to do together & how much we have fallen into the habit of neglecting alone time as a couple.

    Im hoping to spend more quality time with my partner as a couple too. Also going to make a genuine attempt to rekindle those early honeymoon period days when we were a new couple and were more willing to do things for each other ‘just because’. Instead of slotting into that routine of feeling like we dont have to bother anymore like most long term relationships.

  2. Kissa
    January 14, 2019 / 7:54 am

    Sounds like a perfectly achievable list to me, better than all of those ‘Save £3000 by Feb’ & ‘lose 5 stone in 6 months’ ones that just depress everyone.

    Ive already had a huge declutter & I want to spend more quality time with my partner and not try and fit so many things into my day (work/life balance) so we have time to unwind too. Nice to be able to spend our lunch breaks alone together now the kids are back at school, amazing what you can fit in when the kids arent around ;). Liking the above comment and more power to you, its like being teenagers again and a lot more fun to try and naturally rekindle that honeymoon period after so long. XxX

  3. Katie
    January 14, 2019 / 8:27 am

    Yay for positivity, glad you want to make a change and also glad you now feel like you know what you want from life as thats half the battle. I had an epiphany on New Years Eve as I glanced around all the stunning teenagers and early 20 somethings and my feeling of being super old were magnified and I actually felt threatened by them.

    Im in the peak of my life but after children it made me feel like I was past it but this year im going to to try and get some of my own teenage confidence back. I was so daring, exciting and up for anything back then and really want to get that mindset back now I have this experience behind me too. No reason people cant be young and exciting but have maturity they have gained with life lessons too.

  4. Mikki
    January 14, 2019 / 2:34 pm

    I can understand the tiredness and sheer lack of personal time, as that & lack of motivation can have the biggest effect on life in general but im hoping that with a few changes I can begin to get on top of them and look at life in a whole different light.

    Im aiming to become more of a ‘Yes’ person, the list of things I won’t do has been getting longer every year it seems & things I have convinced myself I dont like without giving them a fair shot. So this year I want to be more a more adventurous & interesting person and do more things I previously wouldnt and shorten that list of things I have neglected and said no to.

  5. Sophie
    January 15, 2019 / 3:42 pm

    Goals are far better than the typical resolution idea & yours look like they are attainable. Date ‘Days’ sound like a great idea as its far better to do something while you both have energy rather than waiting for the evening when you are both exhausted & falling asleep in each others company.

    I too want to spend more days with my husband and I want to get the mother/wife balance sorted out. We spend so much time on/with the children sometimes the relationship aspect of our lives can be pushed to the back of our mind as we dont have the time or energy to maintain them. Everyone has needs and sometimes you just have to make time wherever you can to tend to them and keep relationships fresh and exciting. All the best for 2019 and achieving your goals.

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