I became a first time mum almost 14 years ago now at the young age of 16. Becoming a first time mum is daunting at any age. I had no idea how to look after a tiny baby solely dependant on me, I’d never changed a nappy, fed a baby, hell, I hadn’t even held one before! But here we are 14 years later, I have managed to bring that tiny baby up into a lovely young man that I am so proud of. Not only that but I am now a 3rd time mum. I’ve just about got this motherhood gig down now but things haven’t always been easy, I doubted myself a lot in the early days. Here’s 7 pieces of advice I’d give my first time mum self and to anyone that’s about to become a mum for the first time.
7 Pieces Of Advice I’d Give My First Time Mum Self
Trust your instincts
A lot of people will try to tell you what to do with your baby but your baby is exactly that, yours! You may think you aren’t going to have a clue what to do but you will. Advice off other people is helpful (sometimes) but ultimately you know whats best for you and your baby.
Feed your baby how you want to
Don’t feel pressurised to feed you baby a certain way. Do what is best for you and your baby. If you feel a certain way of feeding isn’t for you don’t feel guilty for trying a different option.
What other people think is not important
Motherhood can be full of judgement especially as as young mum. My biggest piece of advice to any mum is f*ck em! Don’t let what other people may think of you stop you from doing things.
Keep it simple
Contrary to what you may think, babies don’t actually need that much stuff. Clothes, nappies, food, somewhere to sleep and a few toys is all you really need. Don’t get conned into buying loads of creams and ‘must have’ products either. Vicks BabyRub is a great multipurpose product, It moisturises, soothes and helps baby feel relaxed. Use it any time of day to help settle your little one.
Get out more
Baby groups may not be for you but even going for a walk will make the world of difference to your well being. Staying cooped up inside every day will drive you crazy.
Those first few weeks of your baby’s life will go so fast, make sure slow down and soak in that new little life you have created. It’s OK to not get dressed or put make up on. It’s OK if you don’t feel up to visitors. Don’t feel like you have to prove yourself to anyone.
Ask for help
If you are struggling mentally or physically don’t be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. No one is going to think any less of you. Being a first time mum isn’t easy but there is plenty of help available if you need it.
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