Once you become a mother it’s so easy to forget about yourself and not have regular me time. Your whole world now revolves around this little person and even the most determined among us can still lose a bit of ourselves along the way. Recently I haven’t been feeling myself, with looking after an energetic toddler and growing another tiny human, looking after myself has well and truly been put on the back burner and it’s starting to affect my mood. I find how I look and feel about myself generally contributes to how much motivation I have. Currently my levels are at a big fat zero and even getting dressed every day is becoming a struggle. I love to take Ava out and about and do fun activities with her but that is just not happening because quite honestly I can’t be arsed. I feel awful admitting that and so guilty that she’s not getting the stimulation she needs.
Something needs to change, I need some me time. I know I’m limited on what I can do currently due to pregnancy but there’s nothing stopping me taking better care of myself and giving myself a big kick up the backside to get out of this rut I’ve fallen in. Here’s what I intend to do to start feeling like me again.
5 ways to feel like you again and have some ‘me time’
1.) Book a trip to the hairdressers. I can’t even tell you the last time I dyed my hair or had it cut. It’s looking so straggly and dull at the minute, not to mention about 3 different colours. I know if my hair looks nice I instantly feel better and more motivated to leave the house.
2.) Have a regular pamper night complete with a lush bath bomb, face mask, moisturising and nail painting. Followed by a nice cup of tea and a read of a book or magazine, yep that makes me sound like a 90 year old but having kids will do that too you! Sitting in silence has never felt so good.
3.) Make time for relationships. It’s so easy after a long day of looking the kids to collapse in front of the TV and start scrolling away on our phones and forget to make time for anyone else. Try scheduling a monthly date night or catch up with friends. Date nights don’t even have to be outside the house, a nice meal and snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie is all you need, plus a no phones ban!
4.) Go shopping. When was the last time you bought anything for yourself? I certainly can’t remember. I feel like I wear the same few outfits over and over again, not because I love them, purely because they are the only things that fit. I’m in serious need of a wardrobe refresh.
5.) Drink more water and eat better. I bet all of us could up our water intake and eat a more balanced diet rather than grabbing a drink only when we realise we are dying of thirst and eating kids leftovers as opposed to proper meals. When I first had Ava I lived on yoghurt and breakfast bars, not ideal when you need the energy to survive the day with small children.
“You can’t pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself first”
I have booked in to get my hair done, ordered some new bath bombs, set aside an evening for regular me time and planned out a shopping day and date night. I know all of these steps will help me start feeling a bit more like Amy rather than just Mummy, I just need to remember how important it is some take time for your self and not let old habits creep in. I’m putting my positive pants firmly on! (if I had any that were remotely positive looking that is, best add those to the shopping list)
What do you do to start feeling like yourself again?