Everyone always talks about and prepares you for the terrible twos and threenagers but why did no one tell me what a head f*ck a one year old is! I mean seriously, where has all this sass and emotional instability come from?
Ava has always been what you would call a ‘free spirit’ she’s knows exactly what she wants and I love her for it. I wrote about how everything suddenly changed with her behaviour here, since that post I’ve been trying different ways to cope and help her in this crazy frustrated phase she’s going through. It’s not a phase either of us are enjoying so I’m doing my best let her have some independence and but also be there comfort her when things don’t go her way.
I wanted to share what’s been working for us in case it helps anyone else dealing with a sassy one year old.
5 tips to get through the sassy one year old stage
- Make her feel important – Basically I’ve turned Ava into my little helper and she’s loving having ‘jobs’ to do. Such as helping with the laundry, tidying up and getting her things ready for a nappy change. Tasks that were faced with tantrums from her now go a lot smoother if she’s involved.
- Give her freedom – If there’s one thing Ava hates it’s being told where to go. We have been taking her to places where she can just run free. Parks and big open spaces are great for her to safely run around without out us holding on to her.
- Give her independence – This is our biggest tantrum starter, Ava is at a stage where she wants to do everything herself so we are letting her, even if we know she’s unable too, we always give her the chance. Yoghurt eating is certainly interesting now!
- Offer lots of praise and cuddles – Children are a bit like dogs (sorry!) they love praise and encouragement. I try to not react to bad behaviour unless dangerous and concentrate on making a big deal out of her doing as shes told. I’ve found giving Ava a cuddle when she has a tantrum often stops it in its tracks.
- Encourage communication skills – We look at flash cards everyday and read lots of books. We constantly wonder around having a chat and pointing out everyday items and we encourage her to show us or try to tell us what she wants instead of instantly getting her something. These are just some of the things we have found to be helping Ava develop her speech. Ultimately though children develop at their own pace and will start communicating when they are ready.
I can’t find the flash cards I have online anymore (marks and spencer) but Amazon have loads of different ones available.
Hitting herself and others
If you read my post a few weeks back you will know that Ava had started hitting herself in frustration. I tried many things to stop this including completely ignoring but I found the thing that worked the most for her was to hold her hands to stop her from hitting herself and calmly say ‘I don’t want you to hurt yourself’ or if shes hitting me I do the same but say ‘we do not hit people’. She hasn’t stopped completely but the hitting has definitely become less frequent and by working on everything above she is becoming much less frustrated with life!
And if all else fails, buy wine. For you that is, not the baby!
If you have any tips that have worked for you please share them in the comments.
Thanks for reading